Man returns to Tonbridge on quest for missing daughter

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A CANADIAN man who last saw his former partner in Tonbridge 10 years ago returned to the town this week on his quest to find the daughter she abducted.

Joe Chisholm, 48, was given joint custody of his 21-month-old daughter Sigourney when he separated from the baby's mother Patricia O'Byrne in Toronto in 1993.

  1. <P>LOOKING BACK: Joe Chisholm with his daughter Sigourney in 1992</P>

    LOOKING BACK: Joe Chisholm with his daughter Sigourney in 1992

Soon after, Miss O'Byrne disappeared and took Sigourney with her, with a warrant being issued for her arrest.

Mr Chisholm has not seen his daughter since despite efforts to trace Miss O'Byrne.

Mr Chisholm's suspicions that Miss O'Byrne could be living in Tonbridge with an uncle were strengthened when he travelled to the town and spotted her on a bus outside the station in 1999.

He said: "I knew she had an uncle in Tonbridge and thought she could be living there under a different identity. I never expected to actually see her and it was quite a surprise to see her sitting on a bus looking out of the window as it pulled away."

He said he checked the bus's destination and it had been going in the direction of the uncle's home.

"I rang the house lots of times but never got an answer," he added.

Mr Chisholm contacted a solicitor the next day, but although Miss O'Bryne was wanted by the police in Canada, was advised not to take action himself.

He said: "As I had spotted Patricia I thought it would be just a matter of weeks before I found my daughter but it dragged on and on into years.

"When Sigourney was taken I never thought it would be this long."

Financial adviser Mr Chisholm shares custody of his son from a previous relationship and as he was just four years old when Sigourney was taken he feels he was also particularly badly affected by losing his sister.

He said: "My daughter could have been told anything about me, that I'm dead or that I'm an evil monster because she's made no attempt to find me.

"Patricia and I had relationship problems which we couldn't work out. It was hard on both of us, but I had thought we could overcome them in the interests of bringing up our daughter.

"I don't want her mother to go to jail or anything like that. My daughter, who is 17 now, doesn't know she has living grandparents and a brother."

He added that it was likely she had been given a new identity by her mother.

"Her medical records have never been used," he said. "Patricia didn't renew her passport and her national insurance number hasn't been used, so they are probably both living under different identities.

"Someone may know Patricia but under a different name. She is quite distinctive, 6ft tall and she's now 51. People can go and look at my sites on Facebook and MySpace to find out more."

To publicise his search during his stay in the UK, Mr Chisholm was interviewed on BBC Radio 5Live and at the International Missing Children's Day event in Leicester.

He is helped in his search by charity Forever Searching.

The charity says it believes Sigourney could have gone through the school system in Tonbridge.

It said Miss O'Byrne could be working in Tonbridge or commuting under a different name.

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    by Joey, tonbridge, kent

    Thursday, June 11 2009, 4:21PM

    “oh my gosh, that is so sad. Can't you do one of those things where a computer comes up with an idea of how someone will look in the future?”

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    by Jackie, Kent

    Monday, June 08 2009, 11:49AM

    “How very sad. No matter what your daughter may have been told about you..when you meet her again and she knows how much you have searched for her, she will know the truth. I wish you every success on finding your daughter. xx”

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    by Jayne Youngs, Tonbridge Kent

    Monday, June 08 2009, 11:48AM

    “I have a daughter of a simular age also called Sigourney. My heart goes out to any parent who loses a child for whatever reason. To know that this girl is out there and being kept from a family that loves her is incomprehensable. my best wishes to them all.”

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    by ANA, BOGOTA

    Saturday, June 06 2009, 11:46PM

    “It's really sad that kids have to pay a big price when his parents have diifferences or got a divorce, and never can see the other parent. I hope that Sigourney will appear any time.”

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    by Pam, uk

    Friday, June 05 2009, 2:53PM

    “I hope you soon find Sigourney. Never give up, she's out there somewhere.
    Wishing you all the very best in your search for your daughter.”

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    by Maxine Harris, Leics

    Friday, June 05 2009, 10:40AM

    “Hi Joe, I want you to know my thoughts and prayers are with you all. I know you'll find Sigourney one day and she'll see how devoted you have been in looking for her. Thank goodness for organisations like ForeverSearching who can offer help to families of the missing. The government must start to take the issue of missing people seriously and the press should also encourage families to come forward to get their story out. Unfortunately, unaffected people are very ignorant of the problem - more awareness is needed. Good luck in your search Joe, I was carrying Sigourney's placard at the March in Leicester - it was a very moving day. xxx”

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    by Joanne, Ireland

    Wednesday, June 03 2009, 9:18PM

    “Joe, it was a pleasure to finally meet you in person at the Missing Children's weekend of events.

    My thoughts & prayers are with you and your family; that someday soon you can have Sigourney back with you where she belongs.

    Stay strong. xx”

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    by John Wearne, Lancashire, UK

    Tuesday, June 02 2009, 10:02AM

    “Joe, My heart goes out to you! Wonderful meeting you on May 25th. We look forward to helping you in any way we can in the search for your beautiful daughter. Be in touch with you soon. john wearne”

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    by Jad Dawson, Portland Oregon

    Tuesday, June 02 2009, 2:22AM

    “Hey Joe ... my heart goes out to you bro. Let me know how I can help. Mitchell and I will be in Toronto for Canada Day. Hope to see you then.

    Love you Bro!

    Jad”

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    by Antoinette, Ireland

    Monday, June 01 2009, 12:05AM

    “To download Sigourney's poster please click on the link below

    http://www.missingsigourney.com/Missing_Sigourney_final.pdf”

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